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Atelophobia: Are you afraid of not being perfect?

Atelophobia is the fear experienced by people not to be perfect or sufficiently capable, the fear that derives from our logical imperfections, both in our actions, ideas or beliefs. Like almost all phobias, it is classified as an anxiety disorder, which logically influences our personal relationships and this in particular gives us the feeling that everything we do is wrong.

The fear of imperfection goes beyond wanting to do things in the best way possible or competent, when the phobia presents generates a real obsession that makes social adaptation difficult or impossible. People with atelophobia are usually very intelligent, competent and talented, but aspire to a standard of perfection that is almost impossible to achieve.

The direct consequence is that they will always try to improve, refine or redo things or tasks that for those around them are very well valued. It usually develops in people who have suffered some type of event or traumatic experience in their lives, mainly during adolescence, which generates significant levels of insecurity and makes them feel guilty of their failure. They do not usually have much success in relationships as they focus more on correcting their "imperfections" than on caring for the relationship itself.

It manifests itself through a series of symptoms, which can be summarized in 3 types: than in caring for the relationship itself. It manifests itself through a series of symptoms, which can be summarized in 3 types: than in caring for the relationship itself. It manifests itself through a series of symptoms, which can be summarized in 3 types:

a) emotional:

- Constant concern for the activities that are going to develop, of not being able to do them correctly according to their standard pattern of demand.

-negative emotions such as anger, sadness, pain or guilt, mainly a high degree of irritability towards oneself that leads to a severe or sharp attitude towards others.

-the sudden need to leave or abandon the task or situation in which we are immersed in a certain moment.

b) mental:

-difficulties to think because of the fear of failure.

-low self-esteem.

-Exception extreme if something does not go well.

-Fear of fainting.

c) physical:

-panic attacks.

-Mares

-sickness.

-insomnia.

- Dry mouth.

- numbness or muscle tingling.

-breathing difficulties

Does atelophobia have treatment? Well, like all phobias, the help of a professional psychologist or therapist is needed to help identify each person in a personalized way looking for the causes of their origin. The work of this professional will consist fundamentally in helping the atelófobo to reach a balance between his cravings or standards of perfection and his personal well-being. To alleviate or redirect physical symptoms, treatment with medication for anxiety is usually resorted to in order to help the patient to relax in moments of greater internal tension. In any case, continued therapy helps restore that emotional balance so that it does not alter or undermine your creativity levels or increase your stress.